“Hi Ingrid,
Just wanted to let you know I’ve been promoted to VP, due in no small part to your coaching. I wanted to thank you. I’m looking forward to great things ahead.
Sincerely, Henry”
I got this email this week. It’s the email I love getting, when my clients reach for the stars in the sky and experience the powerful satisfaction of pulling one down.
I especially smiled big on this one. I remembered how it all started.
Tom, an SVP, that I’m coaching, told me, “I have someone reporting to me that I want to send to you. I want to promote him to VP but let me tell you what’s happening. Henry’s been with the company for over 20 years and deserves to be a VP. He rubbed me the wrong way when I first met him, but then I saw what a good job he does. He’s really good at getting business results. I talked to the Executive Vice President but he nixed Henry’s promotion to VP because of his communication skills – he spent 20 minutes talking about how terrible they are. Henry has no executive presence, he rubs a lot of people the wrong way, he thinks he knows everything, he’s smug, dismissive, he interrupts, he’s always rolling his eyes when others offer up their ideas. He shows up for virtual meetings in shorts, tank top and bare feet. He leans back in his chair when others are talking and looks totally disinterested and even disgusted. It’s hard enough to become a VP in this company, but Henry really has the deck stacked against him. I want you to help him if he’s willing.”
The first time I met Henry, he said, “I’m open to trying your coaching, but I gotta warn you - this is not going to be easy. I’ve had coaching before, and I hated it. They keep trying to change me and I’ve got to be me. I don’t know how you’re gonna do it. I am me and I don’t want to be anybody else and I’ve gone through life feeling like if they don’t like it, it’s their problem.”