“They don’t want to change.”
“They’ve been doing everything the same way a long time. They’re stuck in their ways and they just don’t want to hear about any new way of doing it.”
Adira spent 15 minutes detailing events and deeds that proved how stubborn “they” were and, with a flourish, she finished with, “Perhaps I should leave and go to a different organization where they value creative thought.”
So I asked, “What would be the most ideal outcome you can imagine? What would be really wonderful if it happened?”
She looked at me as if I had lost my mind. “Wonderful?????” She spent another 5 minutes patiently explaining to me how “these people” were far from ideal, how they did not measure up to her standards, did not live up to her expectations, and how disappointing it all was.
Adira had no awareness of what she was doing. None.
She had no idea she was being critical. She thought she was being objective.
My job was to raise her awareness.